I overheard a couple of women talking today. I didn't hear much of it, but she was talking about "reinventing" yourself. It really hit me. I keep saying, "I'm not the same person I used to be." Like it is a bad thing. I have been so down on myself, but I need to change my thinking.
We shouldn't think it's a bad thing, if we don't get to do the things we used to do. Each life event, changes us. Whether we want it to or not. Some we choose, others a thrust upon us. Shouldn't we always be "reinventing" ourselves? Instead of whining that life has changed?
So...I need to figure out, who this new me is. Is she a mom struggling to make sure everyone is happy? Is she an advocate, for those who can't advocate for themselves? I guess it all comes back to balance.
But what I'm trying to convince myself is, sure I may not have the same friends, or even the same goals as I did before Jack. But, I have GOT to figure out what exactly my goals are, LIFE goals, not just for today or this week.
I need to REINVENT myself. And stop whining about who I used to be. I will never be her again. But it's not all a bad thing. Now I just need to meld the old me and the new me! REINVENT me. I don't think it will be hard, it's just RENAMING it. Ya know?
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I think you've hit the nail on the head. We mothers, tend to lose ourselves, so easily.
Our past, and our history, are only steps to our evolution. What we evolve to, or become is totally up to us.
If we go around through life, just letting life happen then we don't control where we go, or who we become.
I've walked around in a haze, for so long... its heartbreaking for me to look back on it.
These days, I have more direction. I am so glad that you have stumbled onto this, ... exciting perspective.
I know who I am. (now) and I know where I want to go (now) and I have an idea, of how to get there. (now), and the difference that has made in my life, is truly astounding.
I am so excited for you, to conscientiously start your endeavor. I am also hoping to be a part of it.
You're a wonderful person, Miss Jenny. I so appreciate your support of ME, and my dreams. Your understanding, and acceptance of me.
I hope that what ever you decide you want to be, to do, or to become, that I can echo the support you give me.
I came here from Lisa's post. I really like what you said.
It is so true. I think it is always good to reinvent yourself. That is why we are here . To do better and better!
I came here from Lisa's link as well. I think you are on the right track! There is so much to enjoy in life in most circumstances. Being aware of others and what they go through, I think helps us realize how blessed we are. I think that your thinking and self-awareness are what it takes to take control of life rather than being blown by every wind. Being an advocate for children is one role that you may have. Helping your family be happy is great too. You need to have time for yourself in the goals too!
Good thinking! It is hard to adjust the new us to the old us but thankfully we are always a work in progress. I am glad you are able to have some new perspective. Love Ya!
I, too, came here from Lisa's post. I think the concept of establishing who you are, as a distinct entity separate from your children or spouse, is an important thing for parents to do. What will our children learn from us about how to be adults, if we cannot show them how to be happy, independent people? I think reinventing may not be the right term, for me anyway. I don't see myself as radically different from who I have always been. My priorities have changed since having children, but I am still essentially the same person. I have just had to figure out how to adapt who I am to my new circumstances.
BTW - My son was born last year with a unilateral cleft lip and palate.
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