Sorry for the flip flopping. The last few days have been hard on me. And when things get hard, I laugh. It's just my defense mechanism. Make it funny. No matter what it is. It's how I handle stress. I also reach out. I need support. The hardest thing that ever happened to me, was Jack. I imedietaly called me husband, of course. And then told me mom. I am a master of deception. As in..."You are having a hard time? You LOOK great!" I've had 2 Dr's say, in response to me saying, I need help,"Well you LOOK great!" What is THAT!?!?So I guess my question to you is...
What do you do to handle YOUR stress? Your bad situations? Your heartbreak?
I am what you might call a drama queen. I would venture to say, I try not to "suffer in silence". I guess I do to some extent. But those who are close to me, hear WAY too much about it! :)
So I'm anxious to hear how other people are. I always say, "I am NOT the norm."
What have YOU got to say!
6 comments:
I have 4 people that know EVERYTHING that is happening in my Life. They are the ones that i call when anything happens. Good or bad. I am writing a letter. Its going to cause problems with some people. The things that are happeneing are driving me Crazy. Those 4 people have all read it and told me it sounds wonderful. I still don't trust myself. I have a hard time just being satisfied with one answer.
When i get stressed out i Write and listen to music way to loud. It helps to just get into the world that the singer is talking about. Once i am in that "Zone" its hard for others to get me out of it.
Hang in there. I think you have a great support system. I make sure I have time for myself to rejuvenate. Something that has also helped us and our sanity is we have a weekly date night. We go out every sat. night. We go out and laugh our heads off with friends and have a great time. Everyone needs that. I also think talking about it helps a lot. And Honestly, I pray a lot. I listen to hymns, Just try and figure out what I am supposed to learn from the situation. I hope that helps.
Oh Jenny--I definitely do things some what similar. My mom always know when I'm feeling stress. She knows when I'm stressed out and I appear absolutely fine in person. I determined when I was first teaching, that I deserve an Oscar for the acting job I do everyday so other people don't know how stressed I really am. I also speak up--sometimes quietly--but watch out if I feel I have to get loud!!! Cause I'm not afraid to ask for help, yell, and yes, demand it if I feel it's the right thing to do. Whether it makes other's comfortable or not. Which, of course, then causes me more stress. Although--the few times I've been to "dr's"--cause of my stress--they can usually see it. That is one reality I have. I do wear my stress on my face. So, usually people can see I'm stressed--but I think it often confuses people about what I'm stressed about. I'll verbalize one thing--which they assume is what is stressing me out. Often though, it's not at all what is really stressing me out. It's just the problem I have to take care of immediately. My mom will then usually know within 24 hours what's usually bothering me--and it usually has something to do with other people causing me frustration. Anywho--that is how I deal with stress. I don't hold it in--but "drama" queen may not be too far off.
Mary
Pray, pray, pray. And, if possible, get away for the day by yourself. Go to the mall, go sit in a movie theater--just be alone without anyone or anything demanding something from you.
When I am stressed I take REALLY long HOT showers. I like to pretend that the water is washing the stress away, even if for a short period of time. I will sit down in the middle of the waterfall of water with my head resting on my knees and vegetate. I also listen to music or I call a friend to "vent".
Go to the library and get Carol Tuttle's book REMEMBERING WHOLENESS. It has SAVED my sanity. She talks about Heavenly Father, the Savior and the atonement all the way through. This book heals. It really does.
Like others I talk things over with my husband or friends. My husband is a marvelous counselor to me. He helps me see things in perspective and to realize that what I am going through is exactly what I need to gain my exhaltation.
I keep a stack of positive affirmation cards, made for my specific worries and I read them several times a day. They have been very helpful. For a while I wrote down my horrors and that helped but now I see them differently, as part of my learning experinece. It is never easy. Write to me if you are feeling down. I'm a great listener.
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